Amor Est Magis Cognitvus Quam Cognitio" ( We Know things better by Love than by intellect ).
There is an inherent conflict between the tools we use and ourselves. That which may be limited is more easily grasped, more easily manipulated and thus makes a convenient substitute for a complex and varied individual. Reason can become a surrogate self, rather than an instrument by which one is revealed.
Our emotional bonds, however, speak to the deepest and most elemental levels of being we posses. Without a clear understanding of how somethings feels, and why; we lack full comprehension of its relevance.